After dating a few different people you may think finding love may be like finding a needle in a haystack. You’d need to be the luckiest person in the world to find your soulmate. You hear the stories of people who meet a man one day, know he’s the one and now their happily married. The problem with these stories is most times you don’t hear about the dozens of dates she went on before she met him. Sure there are people who get lucky and meet their perfect man on their first date, but I think most people would agree they’re the exception, not the norm.
While we know these are fairy tale notions, it’s fun to think it can happen. But back in the real world we need to realize that you never know where you’ll find love, it may be someone you date, someone at your new job or your new neighbor. By dating a variety of men you will give you a better chance of finding someone to love you.
Searching for love on a date can certainly ruin the fun of dating. While it’s possible to meet that special someone and have feelings right away, for most of us it takes time. If you only try to date men who you think might fall in love with you, you may find that you’ve passed over the man you’re looking for. How much fun can you have if you see every date as a pre-nuptial meeting. Dating is not a means to an end. If you remember this it can take the pressure off of you and you can enjoy yourself. When you enjoy yourself, you give your date the chance to see the real you and feel that he can be himself.
Many people believe it’s easier to find love when you’re not looking for it.
When you stop worrying about finding love, dating gets easier. So before you go out you need to decide that you’re just going to have fun. You’re on a date because you like him and enjoy his company. So, enjoy your time together. Relax and don’t feel pressured to have a love connection. Take the time to get to know him and enjoy your time together chances are you’ll have more fun and so will he.
If you feel comfortable on your dates, chances are you’ll date more.
By lowering your expectations of finding love on your first date, you may date people who you might not have considered before. Men are also more open to dating women when they don’t feel the ‘love’ pressure. Since you never know where you’ll find love or who he’ll be, you should just have fun dating and see what happens. And who knows, you may meet Mr. Right next time your’re waiting in line at the store. Good luck.
I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment if you’re dating for fun or for love and how it’s working for you.
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